Julie Herman, MFT

"This above all, to thine own self be true." -- William Shakespeare

Contact

  • Julie Herman, MFT
    20688 4th Street, Suite 6
    Saratoga, CA 95070
    (408) 872-0222

    juliehermanmft@gmail.com

Information

  • A Marriage and Family Therapist
  • About Julie Herman, MFT
  • Adult Individual Therapy
  • Couple's Therapy
  • Hypnotherapy
  • Intervention Services
  • Teens and Young Adults
  • Therapist Consultation
  • Where To Go

Recent Posts

  • Saratoga News: "Herman is Helping Families to Help Themselves"
  • Book review: Non-Violent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg

Couple's Therapy

Couple’s therapy is a very powerful approach for individual growth as well as for developing richly satisfying intimate relationships. My focus is to work in good faith toward a mutual understanding between partners no matter how charged, painful, or difficult the issues. I am trained and experienced in relationship issues involving intimacy, parenting, separation and divorce.

Couples_1 Goals and objectives for couple’s therapy:

• Clarify and communicate concerns, needs, and goals.
• Discover accurate information about self & partner.
• Learn and practice interpersonal skills.
• Make healthy decisions respecting each person’s needs.
• Increase happiness, meaning, and pleasure.

It is often tempting to focus in session on the content of the most recent fight rather than on the ineffective process between partners. The core of the issue is better understood by using the current content as a door to the deeper work on a process level.

While solutions to “hot button” problems can be negotiated in therapy, the deeper work of altering dysfunctional patterns between partners is what really leads to lasting positive changes in the relationship.

Couple’s therapy is not just about facing and resolving painful issues with your partner. The process evolves over time into a more joyful practice of building connectedness and pleasure while still being mindful to avoid falling into old patterns. Once this more functional, satisfying state is maintained adequately with psychotherapy support, the couple is ready to continue growing outside of the safety of session.

During the course of treatment, individual sessions will be scheduled as appropriate at my request or that of either partner. The purpose of this is to resolve collateral individual issues which might slow or damage the couple’s therapy efforts. In these individual sessions, each person’s confidentiality is respected.

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